i feel like i've been able to work through most of my aspie issues and i'm a fairly functional member of society overall. i can get and stay employed, and i can make friends. HOWEVER i can't tolerate strangers at all. i find small talk exhausting, and i find that in most conversations i hit a ceiling. if i go any deeper most people just don't seem interested to continue or are not sure what to say, and the conversation dies out. some things that work with others just don't seem to ever work with strangers. i can't befriend them. if this is as deep as it gets, i'm not sure i want to?
i feel unfulfilled! are most people just uninteresting? where are all the vibrant people hiding? am i just bad at showing my good sides to others? am i really just unskilled at social life? do you have any similar anecdotes or issues?
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>>3mqupggfata22
This is what my grandma told me once: not everyone make their day, some people need their day made for them. As I experience it, A) not everyone wears their heart on their shoulder B) not everyone is driven by nerdy passionate things...
I also find surface chitchat unbearable...
>>3mqur2pnkr22x
but also, just having shared interests isn't enough for me, that can be alright, but I find i gravitate or, connect easier with certain people Im not sure - but they just bring something and if you both can bring something you can enjoy eachothers company - and it doesnt have to be a result of shared interests. like, stylists who attract stylists tend to have a good time.
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>>3mqur2pnkr22x
when i referred to strangers i think i narrowed the scope a bit too much. i have this issue even with people i consider my friend. it is to a lessened degree of course, we get along. but i'm still an alien. i contort myself and nothing feels quite natural.
as a result, i look at envy with how many people are satisfied with what they have. and sometimes normie strangers, well something about their way of life seems enviable. i figured i should try. surely there has to be some way for me!
>>3mqupggfata22
>i can't tolerate strangers at all. i find small talk exhausting, and i find that in most conversations i hit a ceiling.
could you give us specific examples of these scenarios? like, people you've met, what circumstances you met them, and how the interactions went?
for me, i work at an VR amusement place, my job is like an escape room host where I brief people and monitor their games but beyond that I don't have to get very in-depth and in that circumstance, yeah, people generally don't go into their passions or interests even when asked and can sometimes seem disinterested in talking, but I think the situation that they're being engaged in and the dynamic between us plays a big factor. Contrast that with my younger years, where I went to a few house parties where people would just spill their guts about all sorts of stuff.
>>3mqushcwzyu22
expanding from what others have said, i don't think you're "missing out" on much of anything. most of the time, those strangers are in the same boat too. either living in the small sphere of people and things they connect with, or surrounding themselves with lots and lots of acquaintances, or somewhere between. i get how that yearning for connection can be, wanting that ephemeral secret to belonging that it seems like everyone else has, but i don't know. there isn't really one. we're all just kinda carving out our own ways to belong, even normies do it.
i still feel that FOMO pain sometimes too but idk. i have my wife. i have a handful of close friends. it's not much but it's more than enough for me.
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this faggot blocked subway door with bike at busiest exchange stations today. i understand that you cant bike everywhere but i thimk this guy is evil. are bikers good or bad in your city i would like to know
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>>3mqnklsi2j52s what if it was 200 or more human
>>3mqnjbvv3o223
around here its either lycra freaks peddling in the shoulder or dudes on chinese ebikes dipping between cars. it sucks cuz they go on the sidewalks a lot but theres rly no other option since going on the road is a freakin death sentence. ironically it feels safer on my motorcycle a lot of times than on my bike.
https://youtu.be/06_ggJCU_n4 Not Just Bikes describes "bike lanes" as car infrastructure, because they're add-ons to spaces that are dedicated to cars, and ultimately serve the purpose of making it easier to drive by not having to mind people on bikes/scooters. I think describing it this way is meant to reframe the notion of "streets" from "places for cars to travel through" to just "places". You can walk through a place, you can bike through a place - if there's enough room you don't need special structures to try and separate different modes (for the most part). The mode-separation infrastructure in my city is really shit; dense urban areas will have footpaths barely wide enough for one person, let alone the dozens who pass through, bicycle infrastructure is often just share-arrows or painted gutters that get cut off for on-street parking, so either risk your life on the road or twist between pedestrians
Basically yeah, sticking your bike somewhere that's creating an obstruction is shitty, but you gotta blame the game not tha playa
i think trains and/or train stations should be accommodating for bikes since people are riding their bikes to them, but i don't have enough context to know whether or not there was a bike space they were ignoring. i live in a small town where there's not many cyclists and i'll see people on bikes from time to time, sometimes their only option is sharing the road legally with a bunch of raised pick ups, SUVs, and semi trucks or taking the sidewalk illegally, so i don't really blame them for the rare occasions i do see them on the sidewalk, i used to do that when i lived in southern california, that town was surrounded by miles of farmland and had barely any bike lanes.
you have all passed my purity test sorry if it looked like i was being reactionary about bikes i was just annoyed <3 there is not designated bike place on the subway cars here but i would say anywhere that isnt blocking a door that is open is a good spot
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>>3mqmmki3n2b2a
i want to be cautious about how to grow this place - deliberately starting small to define the community and then expanding outward. too much initial flow tends to make things turbulent and aimless.
not opposed to new boards - but also i dont want to fracture the community too much. /a/ should be as much of a catch-all as possible for all things nerding out. open to input about how we approach that
We need more boards!!! A furry board!!!