I was an undiagnosed disabled (both autistic and physically) child and my mother had me pretty young, had clinical depression, and at some point experienced a stroke, so, as much as i know a lot of Random practical skills (fixing clothes, repairing other random objects, pretty good at reading and comprehension, anything thad did not need Daily attention to teach, neither parent ever Could be there daily in that way) I'm like. Comedically dogshit at basic bodily upkeep.
My teeth are really bad, my skin is always in a really annoying state, I just don't have? The muscle memory for doing a lot of things well or they take an inordinate amount of effort (ie I know how to cook, reasonably well even, but just the act of eating full meals itself is exhausting) or the habit or even the knowledge sometimes of really basic stuff (I know how to wash my hair but the not hair part is an enigma, I basically never feel like I'm doing it right) I also have difficult skin genetically and idk what to do with that at all
I also lose those habits really easily if I do form them, i used to repeatedly experience food insecurity because of financial troubles and basically lose all cooking muscle memory within a couple weeks every time, as well as after flare-ups of my physical shit that makes me unable to do much
I'm not really saying all this to complain, just to contextualize the sheer lack of upkeep skills I possess, I just wanted to ask if anyone else here knows what to do if you've just never formed/lost habits and knowledge people take for granted? Where do I even find those basic things and how do I find out what I don't know about? How do I keep habits if my body and brain seem allergic to the idea?
I know how to learn tangible skills for making stuff but im completely at a loss with habits and normalizing stuff
The ol Capitalism is also not helping bc the conditions of my life Will scream into my ear that this is pointless if it doesn't help support others which is silly
If someone knows anything about recovering from the physical damage lacking those habits causes, that'd also be really helpful
Hello - I have experienced some negative headspaces / lifestyles in the past, because there was a year I'd spent homeless fleeing abuse and I return from it kind of weird.
If you find yourself chronically online or gaming, as one occasionally does, I would consider making a cute "To Do List" of things you want to be better at doing daily and making it your wallpaper / lockscreen. You'll have chronic exposure to it between tasks, and that can be good.
During that weird recovery period, I also had a really big whiteboard that I was able to score from a discard pile at a scrapyard. That was also very good because I put it behind my computer and would just write tasks on it as I went. Erasing / striking tasks that I accomplished also felt very fulfilling.
Having some degree of fun with it is also helpful. If you find, for example, that you dislike bathing - try a bubblebath. Get agere with it. Feed your sense of fun and wonder.
With regard to meals, if you find yourself eating poorly, I would suggest getting like, two or three lean cuisine instant meals, or some $2.50 cans of soup and a rice-cooker. You can add rice to watery soups to make them heavier and more-filling. You can add frozen veggies, butter, and an egg to leftover rice and make fried rice. If you're too tired to cook, lean cuisine is generally pretty okay for you.
Try to get out a little, too.
If you can go for a walk, or take a bus to meet a friend, or get a library card and check out books, please do.
Breaking monotony is good, and proximity to alternatives means a lot if you find yourself feeling isolated or tempted to bedrot.
When my abuse was at its peak in Japan, I used to spend $2.50 to buy stale bread and feed pigeons. It kept me out of my house, it made me feel good and like I was nurturing something, and it was something I could do in an hour with a bit of walking.
I'm sorry things have been hard for you.
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Oh! Also, once-daily gummy multivitamin, moisturizer, and a facial cleanser.
If you struggle with brushing your teeth, keep two tooth-brushes - one by your bed with a cup, and one in the bathroom with everything else.
Oftentimes, you are tired, and the temptation to sleep outweighs the commitment to brush. If they're co-located a little on your nightstand, you can build better habits.
doubles of everything is huge, i keep my pills both in my purse and by the bed, toothbrush by upstairs and downstairs, water bottle up and downstairs and in my purse. doing stuff just plain wrong and different is fine if it gets you to do it. 2 laundry baskets one for "too lazy to fold/not dirty enough to wash" and one for "gross im not wearing that again." they have face wash you can just put on and wipe off no water involved (i hate getting my face wet). i hate washing dishes but i can live with it if i wear gloves and listen to music really loud. habits are good but hacks and cheating can be even more effective. also ditto getting out of the house is big, and having some kind of skill that you are really invested in practicing, learning japanese fixed my brain in a lot of ways cuz it feels like i can do anything now
i've found that meditation and exercise give me more energy than i put in, and they're kind of self perpetuating things . they're something i want to do and thats something i try to find back to when im doing poorly. would recommend
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