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after 28 years of being alive i finally cracked the secret to soft skin. what they were saying about skincare products really does work. i feel like i look to most of the cosmetics industry with scorn? it's a little too much effort all told and it's best to not overwhelm yourself with tasks.(´ー`)
what is your routine? do you consider yourself pretty? do you bother with the make ups? how do you make it easy for yourself if so?
i don't really know what i'm doing with skincare so feel free to critique, but here's my current one;
before shower i use speedy cleansing oil, let it sit for 2 mins, then in the shower, wash off the oil and follow up with cerave hydrating cleanser and whatever supermarket facial cleanser i happen to have (i dont do mechanical exfoliation bc it irritates my face). after showering, la roche posay retinol concentrate and a generic facial moisturizer with spf 50.
i dont bother with make-up because i suck at it and dont like the look most of the time. maybe a little bit of eyeshadow as eyeliner very occasionally.
i do not consider myself pretty at all
im running more or less the same routine as u. i would cleanse and moisturize. but retinoids and niacinamide are new for me. they made a massive difference overall. i had a lot of breakouts and discoloration and now im not feeling like i deserve to die every time i look at myself(´￢`)
>>3mqvtd53lzc2x
>i do not consider myself pretty at all
it's hard. but someday i feel ok and i can accept it. i hope you can feel the same
>>3mqvtyh2gkj22
mr. doctor just has to scrape some bone off my face and i'll be alright
azealic acid and retinoids have made the most difference out of anything ive used. i also use some copper+zinc+vitc serum every morning which im sure plays a role but the results havent felt as obvious with that.
id really recommend trying azealic acid if u havent, if you have anything resembling acne problems or rosacea
I use a facial cleanser in the shower when I wash my hair and cerave SPF moisturiser in the mornings. haven't tried retinols or anything, maybe I'll pick some up. I try to keep makeup light, just concealer for the messed up bits of skin and under my eyes, chapstick/lip gloss, and sometimes some eye pencil on my waterline. people sometimes tell me I'm pretty but I usually don't feel like I look good, probably because my hair and clothes are still so inconsistent and my style is a mystery even to me...
i just do a really basic thing where I wash my face and exfoliate in the shower with a cleanser and washcloth and then put moisturizer and sunblock after i get out
i think diet and hydration plus that gets you like 90% there unless you have a skin condition
>>3mqw7felove2z
i just use the cheapest cerave knockoff stuff btw
>>3mqw7felove2z
i don't know, acne-prone skin is actually very common (around 30% for adult women) and there isnt much that hygiene and diet will do beyond the usual health benefits there. i've had to deal with a lot of very misguided advice on the topic over the years when ultimately u really just need to put the right active ingredients on ur face to stop your pores from clogging (ultimately that is much more relevant than the brand or the specific product).
ive been thinking about DIYing from raw active ingredients since it doesnt seem too hard but my current routine works well enough and isnt expensive at all so ill just keep doing that until i feel the call of autism on this specific topic (cant mention the brand im using since it's nearly a dox lolol)
i wish i was more of a girl's girl... i think i would have an easier time fitting in.
i feel like ive tried a lot of things to appear more traditionally feminine. make up, exposing more skin, skirts... but even if i push past the anxiety around dressing or acting a certain way, i ultimately i don't feel true to myself. i don't know if i would call it acting? its more of a profound discomfort with certain modes? (´～`)
sometimes i wonder if these thoughts are a reflection of the world trying to put me in a box. like, "life would be easier if you were that way. you could live a normal life and not be this strange thing people don't know how to interface with."
i think all women feel somewhat discomforted by what society asks of them. and it shapes us into what we're expected to be. maybe i just dont want that to be true?
>>3mqwicb3mt22x
this was my experience for sure - i consider myself relatively diligent with hygiene. i wash my bed sheets regularly and do most of the things 'beauty influencers' say will give you glowing but in reality but it took some very specific incantations for my skin to not be perpetually irritated. so much of it is genetics...
>>3mrdvyyrkiq22
v true. it is a perpetual effort to craft one's appearance and even if u can learn to be comfy presenting a certain way it's a lot of effort. i think there is somewhere a nice middle ground in terms of effort v result, but i have yet to reach it.
>>3mrdvyyrkiq22
not saying it's necessarily the same for you, that discomfort might very well be due to a genuine discordance you feel with that kind of femininity. but nothing feels immediately natural to anyone, it always takes time and work for a way to be to become one's normal and discomfort in the intervening period is totally normal.
personally, i was using this sort of "this is not for me" reasoning as a way to cope with my anxiety with going through that period for a long time and it's set my personal development back by several years. but it's just how i am now and im very glad i was eventually able to make it through that.
this may or may not be the case for you, and it's totally fine if it isn't, but i want to make sure that seed is planted in ur head so that in the event that you are going through something similar to me my experience can serve you. (ftr im far from hyperfeminine and there are a lot of traditionally feminine things i dont do, it doesnt mean one has to go "all the way" so to speak)
>>3mqwicb3mt22x
i know what u mean i just see people do like a million products sometimes and i think basic stuff works better for some people
like obviously if that doesn't work it doesn't but i worry some people are overdoing it
>>3mrftz7ws7m2j
oh absolutely, even in the case that you have specific skincare needs (and that is most people, i dont know the actual stats there but neutral skintype is definitely less than half of people), they will be served by a couple things that best cater to your needs and u dont rly need anything more than that + moisturising + a healthy lifestyle.
skincare brands are kind of a problem here though (and it's even worse for haircare) because they dont do anything to dispel all the common myths around skincare and will even use them as marketing tactics (common one for haircare is advertising a product as moisturising when that is precisely what a haircare product shouldnt do unless it's for ur scalp, none of those products actually moisturise but they still say they do).
so for the average person that thought process that should work of trying a product that is advertised as targeting your problems, seeing it doesnt work as well as you expected, piling on another such product hoping itll do more, and so on and so on, doesnt actually end up working at all lol
it's only when u know exactly what active ingredient you need that you can really achieve that
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